Sunday, 28 December 2008

NO SUNDAY CIRCLE TILL 11TH JANUARY 2009 - 1430! HAPPY NEW ISLAMIC YEAR EVERYONE!

Asslamualaikum wr wb brothers and sisters,

We will take a short winter break as the hall will be closing for the Xmas period - Inshallah we will be back on the 11th January 2009/1430.

We would like to take this opportunity and wish everyone a Happy New Islamic Year - 1430 - and we pray it brings us all, the entire Ummah of Muhammed (saw) Success, Victory, Prosperity and Peace! Ameen!

The MOD Team

Tuesday, 18 November 2008

NO CIRCLE WILL THIS WEEK ON 23RD NOV ;(

Assalamualikum wr wb Brothers and Sisters,

Unfortunatly there is no circle this week - we are taking a break for one week and inshallah will return the week after on the 30th Nov.

Assalamualikum wr wb

The MOD Team

Wednesday, 12 November 2008

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Get regular updates every week of each of our weekly sunday events, leave your comments and questions, let us know how we are getting on, or suggest new ideas or topics to cover - have you a good idea or burning topic you want to addressed? - and dont forget to pass the word on and get your friends to sign up too! Jzkallah!
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DOOMSDAY IS HERE!! Signs of the Last Hour - Part 2 (The Major Signs & The Last Hour)



THE 10 MAJOR SIGNS OF THE DAY OF JUDGEMENT!!

Learn what they are... & how we can prepare for it! How should we view these things? Just stories? Make Believe? Our should our hearts and souls shudder and awaken our eeman to become better Muslims!!! This was the effect these Signs had on the Sahabah (May allah be pleased with them all) - and we pray - that it shall have a similar effect one us! Ameen!

DOOMSDAY! Signs of the Last Hour - Part 1 (Minor Signs)


Think the Last Hour is far away?? Come and learn how many signs have ALREADY passed! And how many we are witnessing now...

Now ask yourself - are you ready for the Last Hour??

May allah awaken our hearts and minds and protect us all from trials and tribulations! Ameen!

Sunday, 26 October 2008

JINNS!!! Halloween Tales or Truth?


Scary!!!!!!!!! Muahhahahahahah! Everyone knows a jinn story! come and find out what the deal really is with Jinns! Bring someone to hold your hand!! ;)

Sunday, 19 October 2008

THE JEWEL OF MEDINA - Who was Ayesha RA?


"The Jewel of Medina - Who was Ayesha (ra - May allah be pleased with her)?

The recent US publication of the contraversial book "The Jewel of Medina" has caused alot of controversy. It is described by a US academic who reviewed it, as making “fun of Muslims and their history".

We need to stand up and defend Islam and the Honour of the beloved wife of the Prophet saw - but how much do we really know about her blessed person (May allah be pleased with her)?

Who was Ayesha (ra)? Why is she called "the Mother of the Believers"? When did she marry the Prophet saw? What was her life story? How was she the teacher of the Sahaba ra? Why is she so importent to Islam and Muslims?

As Muslims we should know the answers to the above questions, otherwise how can you defend someone we don't know?

Sunday, 12 October 2008

SCHOOL IS IN!!!



SCHOOL IS IN! BACK TO SCHOOL!

Same old friends... Same old people...
...or a time for change?

Sunday, 5 October 2008

RAMDAN IS GONE - TIME FOR... TRANSFORM-MUSLIMS!



AUTOBOTS! TRANSFORM AND ROLL OUT!

Ramadan is over ;( - but does that mean we stop practicing our deen?? Why do many muslims copy the Transformers - and change into "Ramadan mode"?? then on "Eid mode" we transform back to what we were before Ramdan (or worse!)???

Wednesday, 1 October 2008

EID MUBARAK FROM THE ENTIRE MOD TEAM!

EVERYONE AT THE MOD TEAM WOULD LIKE TO WISH ALL OUR BROTHERS AND SISTERS EID MUBARAK ON THIS BLESSED DAY AND HOPE YOU ALL HAVE FUN...

AND KEEP IT HALAL! ;)

THE MOD TEAM

Monday, 22 September 2008

FEEDBACK FROM YOUTH SHOW ON RADIO RAMADAN SHOWS - READING!

"TAKE 1! YOUTH SHOW
SATURDAY 6TH September
Guests were Ayaz, Mehdi and Parvez.

We covered background to Ministry of Dawah, Marriage and the youth and how to connect to the youth generally. There were many calls and text msgs sent during and after the show asking questions. After the show we received text messages asking for the Ministry of Dawah website and where people can listen to their talks. Many people in the community were asking that evening after Taraweeh prayers about where the guests were from and how they liked their straight forward style.

TAKE 2! BACK BY POPULAR DEMAND!
Thurs 18th September
Guests were Ayaz, Mehdi and Faisal

We covered what Ramadan means to the youth, Drugs awareness and Ayaz entertained us with some impressions of what he thought certain famous people would say if they impressed Islam in the future. We had an excellent response with people calling and texting in questions during the show. One of the local internet cafés sent a text msg in describing the show as “Excellent… exactly what people need to hear” and said that he was recording the show and will be uploading it to his website. This show became a big talking point in the community and almost everyone who came into the radio station the next few days after the show commented on it – many people rated this show as the best youth show of all Ramadan."

Sunday, 21 September 2008

FEEDBACK FROM RADIO RAMDAN BURTON SHOW!

"asalamu alaikum

Jazakallah khair for your time to come on our youth show in the Month of Ramadhan, you made a very valuable contribution to our 'Change Series' and inshahAllah had a very good impact on our listeners especially in how you were able to relay your experiences and a way forward in a language that the youth understand.

Once again Jazakallah khair and we look forward to inviting you again next year inshahAllah.

walaikum salam,

Shehzad Bashir
Director of Radio Ramadhan Burton"

RAMADAN NIGHTS 3!!! (MOD recommends...)



In association with Crowndale Mosque, MOD would like to recommend this event - featuring previous Guest Speakers from MOD including Hamza Tzortzis!

Saturday, 20 September 2008

RAMADAN BREAK - MAKE THE MOST OF THIS MONTH!

RAMADAN MUBARAK TO EVERYONE!

JZKALLAH FOR YOUR FANTASTIC SUPPORT - MASHLALLAH WE HAVE JUST COMPLETED A COUPLA RADIO RAMADAN INTERVIEWS ABOUT MOD, OUR EVENTS AND STYLE OF YOUTH DAWAH. MOST IMPORTENTLY ADVICE TO THE MUSLIM YOUTH BASED ON OUR EXPERIANCES. INSHALLAH HOPE TO SHARE IT WITH YOU ALL SOON!

WE ARE TAKING A HOLIDAY FOR RAMDAN - ALLOWING EVERYONE TO MAKE THE MOST OF THIS PRECIOUS SHORT TIME! BUT WE WILL BE BACK AFTER EID - BIGGER AND BETTER THAN EVA INSHALLAH! MAKE THE MOST OF THIS ON THIS BLESSED MONTH! REMEMBER US AND THE UMMAH IN UR PRAYERS!

SLMS
THE MOD TEAM
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Sunday, 31 August 2008

Pre ramadan talk - WANTED 4 1 MONTH ONLY! PART TIME MUSLIM!



PRE RAMADAN TALK!

CHECK OUT THE WICKED FLYER! It says it all - May Allah swt prevent us from being as such and make us sincere and practising all year round - ameen! ;)

Saturday, 23 August 2008

Differences of Opinion! Difference in Deen??



Why are there so many opinions? How can there be so many opinons? Which one is right? Dont these opinions create disunity? Why do people hold different points of view so strongly? Why did Allah allow this disunity? How can we ever unite, when we all have difference opinions? Should we all have the same opinion? Wasn't there only one Prophet Muhammed - so why so many opinions? Are these all made up? So can't I pick and choose opinions to suit me? Why do people with different opinons end up arguing over which one is better or stronger? Why do I need to follow a scholar or opinion or madhab? Isn't that like creating sects or divisions in the religion? If you do, then dont you end up following the Iman or Scholar or Sheikh instead of Allah and His Messanger? Shouldn't we just follow Quran and Sunnah??

...HELP!

Come and finally share.. your Opinion... and Ours!

Oh! ..and find the answers to all these questions too! ;)

Thursday, 14 August 2008

WILL ISLAM TAKE US BACK TO THE DAYS OF THE CAMEL??



A common misconception is that if we live in an true Islamic Society now we will go back to the dayes of sand, camels and turbans... but is this the truth? Is Islam uncivilised? Backward? Anti-technology? anti-modernisation?

Come and dicover that or 1500 year history tells us the opposite - that infact, Islamic societies pavaed the way for scienes, technology and learning - it was the beacon of humanity and the most advanced culture of its time. It brought us alcohol, mathamatics, geography, maps, science, algebra, 3 course meals, coffee and coffee shop culture, universities, turkish delight, soft sweets, sheehsa, halwa, free education, medicine, botony, astronomy, mint tea and much much more...

Also come and meet Sidi the camel!! ;)

Friday, 8 August 2008

THE TRIAL CONTINUES - IS RELIGION THE CAUSE OF ALL WARS?



A common misconception is that religion is the cause of all wars - so they say let's get rid of it altogether! The less religion the better - so less people will have to argue about (?). Religions cause arguments.. Many people think that religion teaches its followers to think like - "I'm right.. You're wrong.. You should be killed.. I cant accept your opinion - only MINE is from God!". As these irrational silly beilefs are down to something you can never prove then the only option is that they fight.. so people of different religions fight.. right? I mean look at Palestine?

..Is this the truth? Is Islam like this? Come and find out and judge for yourself - as the trail continues...

TAKE THE MIC - DEFEND THE DEEN!

Monday, 28 July 2008

Quran.. ON TRIAL! How do you plead?



Prosecution: “The Qur’an is an outdated book that can not be applied in the modern world. It promotes hatred and violence, it discriminates against non-believers and women. It is a backward and baseless book. It is an unpreserved document with many contradictions.”

Defence: “The Qur’an is a timeless miracle. It is a preserved text that has solutions for humanity’s problems. It provides the basis for peace, tolerance, justice, progress and prosperity.”

So many attacks on the Quran these days.. So we are going to have the court case style event! A Judge, Jury, Plaintiff and Defendant.. There will be a case brought against the Quran.. Is it a book of Hate? Violence? Contradictions? Brainwashing? Nonsense?

Come down and hear the case against the Quran - defend the Book of Allah (is it?) - Hear and Learn the arguments and the correct way to defend and explain the truth against these attacks- spread the message - fight ignorance and darkness Defend the Deen!

We will be having our SPECIAL GUEST SPEAKER (and a MOD Favourite and Fan) Hamza Andreas Tzortzis, a greek convert to Islam, is an international lecturer on Islam and especially the Quran, public speaker, freelance writer, author and peaceful activist. He has debated prominent academics, intellectuals, Christian Professors, Scientists, Atheists, Agnostics and public speakers all over Europe, America and The Muslims World and had numerous media appearances.

How do you plead??

TAKE THE MIC - DEFEND THE DEEN!
MINISTRY OF DAWAH

Thursday, 24 July 2008

Isra & Mi'raj - The Night Journey of Prophet SAW



As the aniversary of Al Isra Wal Miraj Approaches.. The Night Journey, on a creature with the face of a human, wings like a bird and body of a horse... All the way from Arabia to Al-Quds, Palestine - to the Rock (from the Dome of the Rock) and then onto the seven heavens.. To witness all Prophets, Heaven, Hell and talk to Allah...

Come and hear this powerful spiritual story retold.. and hear how this story still should shake our hearts and provoke our minds to come back to the deen and refect upon these powerful lessons...

But did you know... When this was revealed, many Muslims left Islam and Muhammed SAW, sayin that he had gone crazy! Will you still stick by his Deen and Message even today? In the face of such hostitlity and mockery? Would you go out and say you beileve that your Prophet saw sat on a creature that was a a man/horse/bird? What will you do when your faith is shaken and you feel stupid to open your mouth?

Learn the arguments - Spread the message - Defend the Deen!

THE MOD TEAM

QURAN - ON TRIAIL - case postponed for 1 week..

salaam aleykum

We will be postpoing the "Quran - on Trial!" court case for one week - so let your peeps know and build up the momentum.. We all saw the channel 4 doc right?

Meanwhile do attand our "Isra Wal Miraj" event this week - should be spiritual inshallah!

THE MOD TEAM

Monday, 14 July 2008

SALAHU AD-DEEN AYOUBI - A HERO WHO BECAME A LEGEND!


Questioner - What does Jerusalem mean to you?
Salahuddeen Ayoubi - Nothing.. (pause) ..Everything!
You have seen the film, The Kingdom of Heaven.. now come and learn the truth about the man.. the hero.. who became a Legend..
Heres what non-Muslims have said about him:
“Kurds, Turks, Arabs and Egyptians - they were all Muslims and his servants when he called,” Lane writes. “In spite of their differences of race, their national jealousies…he had kept them together…”
According to the French writer René Grousset,

"It is equally true that his generosity, his piety, devoid of fanaticism, that flower of liberality and courtesy which had been the model of our old chroniclers, won him no less popularity in Frankish Syria than in the lands of Islam".

When German Kaiser Willhelm the Secondwent to Syria he laid a wreath at the tomb of Saladin in Damascu with the inscription,

"A Knight without fear or blame who often had to teach his opponents the right way to practice chivalry".

Monday, 7 July 2008

MALCOLM X - DEFENDER OF THE DEEN!


"A man who stand for nothing, will fall for anything."

- Brother Haji Malcolm X aka Malik El-Shabbaz

What do you stand for?

Come and see the heir of Malcolm X deliver a talk about the man, his mission and most importently, his message - and how it can change your life today and change the world like he did in his day!

Malcolm X Quotes:

"I am and always will be a Muslim. My religion is Islam." - Malcolm X

"I believe in Islam. I am a Muslim and there is nothing wrong with being a Muslim, nothing wrong with the religion of Islam. It just teaches us to believe in Allah as the God. Those of you who are Christian probably believe in the same God, because I think you believe in the God Who created the universe. That's the One we believe in, the One Who created universe--the only difference being you call Him God and we call Him Allah. The Jews call Him Jehovah. If you could understand Hebrew, you would probably call Him Jehovah too. If you could understand Arabic, you would probably call Him Allah...." - Malcolm X

"America needs to understand Islam, because this is the one religion that erases from its society the race problem. Throughout my travels in the Muslim world, I have met, talked to, and even eaten with people who in America would have been considered white, but the white attitude was removed from their minds by the religion of Islam. I have never before seen sincere and true brotherhood practiced by all together, irrespective of their color." - Malcolm X

"True Islam taught me that it takes all of the religious, political, economic, psychological, and racial ingredients, or characteristics, to make the Human Family and the Human Society complete." - Malcolm X

"For the freedom of my 22 million black brothers and sisters here in America, I do believe that I have fought the best that I know how, and the best that I could, with the shortcomings that I have had...I know that societies often have killed people who have helped to change those societies. And if I can die having brought any light, having exposed any meaningful truth that will help destroy the racist cancer that is malignant in the body of America then, all of the credit is due to Allah. Only the mistakes have been mine." - Malcolm X

"All praise is due to Allah, the Lord of all the worlds." - Malcolm X

The future belongs to those who prepare for it today.
Malcolm X

Education is the passport to the future, for tomorrow belongs to those who prepare for it today. Malcolm X

Time is on the side of the oppressed today, it's against the oppressor. Truth is on the side of the oppressed today, it's against the oppressor. You don't need anything else.
Malcolm X, Malcolm X Speaks, 1965

I believe in human beings, and that all human beings should be respected as such, regardless of their color. Malcolm X

There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time. Malcolm X

Truth is on the side of the oppressed. Malcolm X

You show me a capitalist, and I'll show you a bloodsucker. Malcolm X

You're not supposed to be so blind with patriotism that you can't face reality. Wrong is wrong, no matter who says it. Malcolm X

"I am not a racist. I am against every form of racism and segregation, every form of discrimination. I believe in human beings, and that all human beings should be respected as such, regardless of their color." - Malcolm X

"The zionist argument to justify Israel's present occupation of Arab Palestine has no intelligent or legal basis in history." - Malcolm X

"It is impossible for capitalism to survive, primarily because the system of capitalism needs some blood to suck. Capitalism used to be like an eagle, but now it's more like a vulture. It used to be strong enough to go and suck anybody's blood whether they were strong or not. But now it has become more cowardly, like the vulture, and it can only suck the blood of the helpless. As the nations of the world free themselves, the capitalism has less victims, less to suck, and it becomes weaker and weaker. It's only a matter of time in my opinion before it will collapse completely." -Malcolm X

"A new world order is in the making, and it is up to us to prepare ourselves that we may take our rightful place in it." - Malcolm X

Wednesday, 2 July 2008

HIP HOP SUMMER LAUNCH! FROM THE STREETS TO THE STRAIGHT PATH!



MINISTRY OF DAWAH SUMMER LAUNCH!!

From the Streets to the Straigth Path!
*Limited Seating*
@ 6.45pm SHARP, Hamden Youth Club, Ossulston Street, Kings Cross, London, NW1

With special guest appearances from the most talked about muslim rappers in london such as DPZ, Masikah and Muslim Bilal Also known from their fist full of lyrics in Blackstone, they will be kicking off MOD's summer activities campaign.

This Summer, this is 'were da party @' !!
Miss it, Miss out!

DPZ, Masikah and Muslim Bilal will be doing rapping a cappella and talking about their lives and how they came from the streets... to the straight path of Islam!

Contact 07903661996 or thesundaycircle@yahoo.com

Wednesday, 25 June 2008

CULTURE CLASH! Green St meets West End! *SISTERS ONLY!*



*This week only - SISTERS ONLY EVENT!!!*

Sisters! When East meets West, we often find ourselves torn between 2 cultures, 2 lifestlyes and 2 identities!? Can we bridge the gap?

Sunday, 15 June 2008

FOOTBALL - THE BEAUTIFUL GAME?



"Some people believe that football is a matter of life and death. I'm very disappointed with that attitude. I can assure you its is much, much more important than that."
Bill Murrey, Ex Liverpool FC Manager

Tuesday, 27 May 2008

IMAN CALLS FOR ACTION!



Assalamualikum! Come hear the finale of our aqeedah series of talks - we have talked about Death, Jannah, Jahannam, The Dajjal - but whats effect should this have in us? Remember to bring down your friends!

ps May Allah SWT make your exams easy for you and give you all good results! Ameen!

Monday, 19 May 2008

DAJJAL - THE FALSE MESSIAH!



* WE ARE BACK!! *
Salaam aleykum everyone! Alhdamullilah we are back & with a very *hot* topic - DAJJAL! Come & find out more inshallah this sunday 25th May! Any probs or queries please contact us. (Details on flyer)

Tuesday, 13 May 2008

NO CIRCLE THIS WEEK - SUNDAY 18th MAY

Assalamualikum wr wb

Apologies, but there will be no sunday circle this week ;( - but we will be back next week with "DAJJAAL - The False Messiah!" Sunday 25th May inshallah! Put it in your diary inshallah!

We hope you are all studying hard. We wish you good luck and pray that Allah swt make your exams easy and grant you all success with flying colours! Ameen! ;)

The central MOD Team

Tuesday, 6 May 2008

Jannah - The Eternal Paradise



"Verily! Those who believe (in the Oneness of Allah Islamic Monotheism) and do righteous deeds, shall have the Gardens of Al-Firdaus (the Paradise) for their entertainment.

"Wherein they shall dwell (forever). No desire will they have to be removed therefrom."

Monday, 28 April 2008

HELLFIRE - the eternal prison...



Alhamdullilah we have had alot of requests to have a Jahannam/Hellfire talk so here it is! As Muslims we know there is only 2 results to our life - Heaven (Jannah) ... or HELL (Jahannam)! How we live our livs will determine where we go.. So knowing what awaits us if we earn Allah anger, or disobey him, or the knowing the detailed punishments that are possible, inshallah, should motivate make us want to stay away from such a terrible place.. whose fuel is men and stones! Please read these verses below! May allah protect us and our actions from Hellfire! Ameen!

And whosoever disobeys God and His Messenger, then surely, for him is the fire of Hell, he shall dwell therein forever.” (Quran 72:23)

O you who believe, save yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is men and stones over which are (appointed) angels, stern and severe, who flinch not (from executing) the commands they receive from God, but do (precisely what) they are commanded.” (Quran 66:6)

"It is not Us that they wronged; it is they who wronged their own souls." 7.160

"What they spend in the life of this (material) world May be likened to a wind which brings a nipping frost: It strikes and destroys the harvest of men who have wronged their own souls: it is not Allah that hath wronged them, but they wrong themselves." [3.117]

Thursday, 24 April 2008

MUSAB IBN UMAIR - WHO??



Find our about one of the most dynamic and influential youths of all time. Learn about the man who started it all.. Who went from nobody to somebody. Find out how we all owe a debt to this youth who started his life as a blingin gangsta playa and ended up being a GIANT hero for Islam. Learn how we can follow in the example of this positive Muslim role model! Are you the next Musab ibn Umair? Inshallah!

Wednesday, 9 April 2008

LIVE BY THE KNIFE & DIE BY KNIFE!!



The aim of the circle is in response to the recent stabbings in Queens Park area of 3 local youth aged around 14. It will highlight the “lost” nature of our youth – stabbings, muggings, fights, getting shot and beaten up. Increasing every year and is more and more common. Why? Why are we so lost? Why are the streets worse than jungle law? Have we become animal? How can Islam help us? Is there away out? A better life? What does Islam say about this? What can Islam offer the youth of today? What should our role models be?

Are you ready 4 your FINAL exam? (DEATH!)



GCSE's, A-Levels, Degree or that PHD? What you preparing for? You started to revise yet? You ready to take on that exam? But what about the final exam? Is there a final exam? What is the final exam? When do i have to take it? How do i revise for it? Who marks it? What happens if we pass? What happens if we fail? Is it even important?

The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said,
“The clever one is he who disciplined himself and worked for what is after death, and the feeble one is he who followed his desires, then made (vain) prayers to Allah.”

“Say: The Death from which you flee will truly overtake you: then will you be sent back to the Knower of all things secret and open: and He will tell you (the truth of) the things that you did!”

[TMQ Al-Jumu’a: 8]

Tuesday, 25 March 2008

Wednesday, 19 March 2008

SUNDAY CIRCLE IS ON THIS WEEK! 23rd March!

Assalamualikum wr wb

Please note that the sunday circle WILL be on as usual, 6.45pm, Hamden Youth Club ths sunday 23rd March 2008.

Jzkallah

The central MOD team

"You are fine the way you are!" - Have you been hearing shaitans voicemail?

Tuesday, 11 March 2008

"Love, Sex.. & Marriage?!" Event - Interviews

Interviews with the Audience after the event!



Please leave us feedback/comments on what you thought of this video! Jzkallah!

"Love, Sex.. & Marriage?!" Event - Q&A

Questions & Answers



Please leave us feedback/comments on what you thought of this video! Jzkallah!

"Love, Sex.. & Marriage?!" Event - Talk 2

Talk 2 - From Haram to Halal - Br.Jamal



Please leave us feedback and comments on what you thought of this talk!! jzkallah!

"Love, Sex.. & Marriage?!" Event - Talk 1

Talk 1 - "Love, Sex.. & Marriage?!" - Br. Ayaz



Please leave feedback and comments on what you thought of this talk! jzkallah!

Monday, 10 March 2008

WHOSE YOUR BOY?? (or girl!)



Da bre whose got your back when ders beef? Da boy whose der wid u lendin cash on eid day? Da bre u grew up wid? Da bre u go skul wid? Da bre u shot wid? Or da bre u take drugs wid? Funny how dis same boy goes missin wen ur standin up in court wen it was his beef? Funny how dis same boy starts back stabbin u or cums round lyk a bailiff wen u cant pay him back, Funny how dis same boy dnt no u once u've grown up coz his 2 busy wid his chick, Its even funnier when he 's runnin away wid ur chick cuz! Funny how ur drug profit gets split 70/30 and u dnt even no. Dis is ur boy??

Wat does Islam say about friendship? Is havin a friend halal shudnt u jus be readin quran in ur spare time? Wat if ur mum dnt lyk dem? What do u luk 4 in a friend? Do u stay friends coz it benefits u and not wen it brings harm 2 u?

Whu is a tru friend?

Brothers and Sisters most welcome!
@6.45pm Sunday 16th March 2008
Hamden Youth Club, Ossulston st, Kings Cross.

For more info email thesundaycircle@yahoo.com or call 07903661996.

Click on flyer picture for more info.

Questions & Answers from "Mother's Day Madness - Why should we obey our Parents?"

Q & A


Q. If you have a father that drinks, commits adultery and takes drugs, do you still pay him respect although he doesn’t live with you and you only see him a few times a month?

A.

Respecting parents is a separate duty from perhaps trying to urge them to stop their sinful ways. The personality of the father may be disengaged from the acts of the father. It is still possible to love the father but feel pain and hurt for the actions he’s doing. The specifics of the question are absent and hence no detailed answer is possible.

No doubt, whether parents are sinful, non-Muslim, difficult, unreasonable or just plain stubborn, a child must always exhibit the best behaviour towards parent(s). He/she must still show devotion, respect and serve them faithfully even though their outward behaviour may disappoint, cause outrage, invoke extreme anger or even fail to inspire any respect whatsoever. Allah (SWT) says in the Qur’an:

(Your Lord has decreed, that you worship none but Him and [that you show] kindness to parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age with you, do not say [so much as] ‘Fie’ to them nor repulse them, but speak to them a gracious word. And lower to them the wing of submission through mercy and say: My Lord! Have mercy on them both as they did care for me when I was little).[1]


Imam al-Mawardi in his commentary entitled al-Nukat wa ’l-`Uyun on verse 24 above writes:

(فلا تقل لهما أف) يعني حين ترى منهما الأذى و تميط عنهما الخلا، وتزيل عنهما القذى فلا تضجر، كما كانا يميطانه عنك وأنت صغير من غير ضجر. و في تأويل (أف) ثلاثة أوجه: أحدها: أنه كل ما غلظ من الكلام وقبح، قاله مقاتل. الثاني: أنه استقذار الشيء وتغير الرائحة، قاله الكلبي. الثالث: أنها كلمة تدل على التبرم والضجر، خرجت مخرج الأصوات المحكية. والعرب تقول أف و تف، فالأف وسخ الأظفار، والتُّف ما رفعته من الأرض بيدك من شيء حقير. (و قل لهما قولا كريما) فيه وجهان: أحدهما: ليناً. والآخر: حسناً.


English:

“(And do not say ‘fie’ to them) means when you see some offence [or insult] on their part and hold back from both bearing it all the way without showing signs of annoyance [and irritation] just how they both held back from doing that while you were a child without showing signs of annoyance [and irritation to you]. There are three interpretations of [the word] ‘fie’. The first is any incorrect or abominable word. This was the opinion of Muqatil. The second is a filthy thing that changes the smell [or odour of something]. This was the opinion of al-Kalbi. And the third [interpretation] is that which indicates spoken [or uttered] sounds of annoyance and exasperation. And the Arabs say ‘uff’ and ‘tuff’. The [word] ‘al-uff’ means the dirt in fingernails and [the word] ‘al-tuff’ means picking up a filthy object with your hand from the ground.
And (speak to them a gracious word) has two meanings. The first is a gentle [word] and the second is a gracious [word].”[2]


Indeed, the actions mentioned in the question are utterly unlawful (haram) and a child must attempt to persuade – with the utmost gentleness, care and manner – his/her father to stop and perhaps seek professional help for the process of rehabilitation. Again, it maybe that regular contact with your father or seeking to make him a part of your life again is the revitalising force that puts him on the road to realising that he has more important things in life than these addictions you’ve mentioned, namely his child or children.


And Allah alone knows best.

The MoD team.

[1] See surat al-Isra’:23-24.
[2] See al-Mawardi, al-Nukat wa ’l-`Uyun, vol.2, p.430.
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Q & A


Q. Some bengali people kiss their thumbs and wipe their eyes. Is this allowed from Islam?

A.

Imam al-‘Allamah Nur al-Din ‘Ali b. Muhammd b. Sultan known famously as Mulla ‘Ali al-Qari (d.) wrote in Asrar al-Marfu‘ah fi Akhbar al-Mawdu‘ah:[1]

“Wiping the eyes with the inner part of the index fingers after kissing them upon hearing the saying of the caller to prayer: I bear witness that Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah. Adding to his saying: I bear witness that Muhammad is His servant and Messenger. I am pleased with Allah as my Lord and [pleased] with Islam as my religion and [pleased] with Muhammad – upon him be blessings and peace – as [my] Prophet.

al-Daylami mentioned it in his [Musnad] al-Firdaws from the narration of Abu Bakr al-Siddiq that the Prophet (SAW) said: Whoever does that, my intercession will definitly take place for him.[2]

al-Sakhawi said: inauthentic (la yasihhu). Shaykh Ahmad al-Raddad cited it in his book Mujibat al-Rahmah with a chain that has unknown narrators (majahil) with a severed chain (ma‘a inqita‘ihi) from al-Khadr upon him be peace. And everything narrated regarding this is definitely not authentic in its attribution [to the Prophet].[3]

I say: If it is proven (idha thabata) to be attributed to al-Siddiq, then it is sufficient to act upon it (fa-yakfi ’l-‘amal bihi)[4] because of his saying (SAW): ‘You are required to follow my path (bi-sunnati) and the path of the rightly guided caliphs (sunnah al-khulafa’ al-rashidin).’[5]

And it is said: It is neither done nor prohibited and its strangeness is not a secret for those possessed with intelligence (dhu ’l-nuha).”[6]

And Allah knows best.

The MoD team.

[1] See `Ali al-Qari, Asrar al-Marfu‘ah fi Akhbar al-Mawdu‘ah, hadith no:435, p.306.
[2] The quote is not quite the same as Daylami’s narration which reads: man fa‘ala fi‘la khalili fa-qad hallat lahu shafa‘ati – “whoever does the action of my beloved friend, my intercession will definitly take place for him”; see al-Daylami, Musnad al-Firdaws as quoted by al-‘Ajluni in his Kashf al-Khafa’, 2/269-271 (#2296).
[3] See Maqasid al-Hasanah of al-Sakhawi, p.390 (#1021) and al-Dayba‘, Tamyiz al-Tayyib, p.150.
[4] This is peculiar reasoning on Imam al-Qari’s part because if the narration is deemed inauthentic, then it would seem rather difficult to establish it such that one could then use it as legitimate grounds for an action. Of course, if the comment was intended to highlight a hypothetical point, then it must indeed be true: if a contiguous chain of narrators can be found leading to Abu Bakr, then one may be permitted to establish action upon it.
[5] For this narration, see Imam Ahmad b. Hanbal, Musnad, p.1216 (#17274-17276) where hadith:17275 is graded sahih by: Ibn Hibban, (#5) in his Sahih, al-Hakim in his Mustadrak `ala Sahihayn, vol.1, p.97 and (#17276) also graded as sahih, 1/96 by Shaykh Shu‘ayb al-Arna‘ut. See also Abu Dawud (#4607), p.691 & ibn Majah (#43), p.21.
[6] One may also see Imam Ahmad Reza Khan’s book Munir al-`Ayn fi Taqbil Ibhamayn of which a few pages are attached for a detailed survey of the Hanafi opinions and statements.
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Q. They say we should always listen to our parent and obey them. What if we have fallen in love with someone we know they [are] not going to approve of? Then what?

A.

Islam has ordered children to be dutiful and obedient to their parents, never to disappoint them, never to hurt them nor cause them to grieve. In fact, obedience to them extends to those areas which are even personal to an individual, e.g. their dress sense, whom they should marry, etc. In these matters, it is not obligatory (fard) to obey parents but highly recommended (sunnah/mustahabb) hence deserving of reward.

The initial fear or extreme dread of rejection is an assumption made by the child and fails to retain an optimistic opinion of the parent(s). This assumption is not strictly warranted as the outcome cannot be decided before the means have been exhausted. Before mentioning a general advice, one may not do the following:

1. Marry in secret out of fear of a possible rejection. It is unlawful, according to the Madhhab of Imam Abu Hanifah (RA) to marry with Allah (SWT) or indeed His Prophet (SAW) as witnesses.

a. In the Fatawa al-Hindiyyah quoting the Hanafi Jurist Shaykh al-Islam al-Marghinani it states:

و من تزوج امرأَة بِشهادة الله و رسوله لا يجوز النكاح ، كذا في التجنيسِ و المزِيد .

“Whoever marries a woman with Allah and His Messenger as witnesses, it will not be valid as is found in [the work] al-Tajnis wa ’l-Mazid…”[1]


b. The great Hanafi commentator Shaykh Zadah wrote:

(و) شرط أيضا (حضور) شاهدين فلو تزوج امرأةً بِشهادة الله تعالى و رسوله لا يجوز النكاح.

“(And) another condition (is the presence) of two witnesses. If a person marries a woman with Allah and His Messenger as witnesses then it will not be valid…”[2]


c. In Abu Bakr b. `Ali al-Zabidi’s commentary of the Mukhtasar al-Quduri, it states:

قوله (ولا ينعقد نكاح المسلمين إلا بِحضور شاهدينِ حرينِ مسلمينِ بالغينِ عاقلينِ) و يشترطُ حضورهما عند العقد لا عند الإجازة...

“And his saying (and the marriage of Muslims is not contracted without the presence of two free, adult male, sane and Muslim witnesses) is that the condition is both [witnesses] have to be present at the point of the contract not at the point of [mere granting of] permission…”[3]


2. Elope and run away. This would be falling into disobeying one’s parents and hurting them which is a serious sin. Obtaining the consent and blessings of the parents is advised as Allah’s pleasure and displeasure lies in the pleasure and displeasure of the parents.


3. Insist on marrying without the legal guardian (wali). Indeed, the Madhahb of Imam Abu Hanfiah (RA) does not posit a legal guardian (wali) as a pillar or integral (rukn) for the marriage but does deems it a condition (shart). So, if a woman marries without the consent and presence of her legal guardian, then it will be (strictly and legally) valid but she will be sinful in that she has intentionally neglected a condition. And being sinful is not a spiritually healthy position to be in.


The general advice would be is to talk to parents. Persist in making them understand in the most polite, gentle and caring way. It may be that time is needed for there to be change. It may also help to use confidential and individual members of the family – especially elders – as mediators.

The specific situation in point requires more elaboration and in the absence of particulars, any detailed answer is entirely inappropriate. As a last resort (after all else has failed), it ought to be referred to knowledgeable individuals or indeed the Imam (or a confidential committee) of the local Mosque.

And only Allah can grant success.

The MoD team.

[1] See Fatawa al-Hindiyyah, vol.1, p.268. Cf. also al-Kasani, al-Bada’i` al-Sana’i`, vol.5, p.120.
[2] What is in the brackets is the text of Ibrahim al-Halabi’s legal primer Multaqa al-Abhur and its commentary by Shaykh Zadah is entitled Majma` al-Anhur Sharh Multaqa al-Abhur, vol.1, pp.320-321. See also Ibn `Abidin’s remarks in Radd al-Muhtar, vol.3, p.27.
[3] See al-Zabidi, Jawharat al-Nayrah Sharh Mukhtasar al-Quduri, vol.4, pp.479-480. What is in the bracket is the text of Imam al-Quduri.
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Q. Is celebrating the Prophet’s birthday allowed in Islam?

A.

Some points to remember with respect to this particular matter.

1. The month of Rabi` al-Awwal has been made one of the most blessed months by the birth of the Prophet (SAW).[1]

2. There is general consensus and agreement that the birth date of the Prophet (SAW) was Monday 12th Rabi` al-Awwal.[2]

3. The Prophet not doing an action does not necessarily make it unlawful (tark al-`amal la tufidu al-tahrim).[3]

Imam Ibn Taymiyyah remarked the following about the Mawlid of the Blessed Prophet (SAW):

Arabic:

"و كذلك ما يحدثه بعض الناس إما مضاهاة للنصارى في ميلاد عيسى (عليه السلام) وإما محبة للنبي (صلى الله عليه و سلم) وتعظيما له والله قد يثيبهم على هذه المحبة والاجتهاد لا على البدع من اتخاذ مولد النبي (صلى الله عليه و سلم) عيدا... فتعظيم المولد واتخاذه موسما قد يفعله بعض الناس ويكون له فيه أجر عظيم لحسن قصده وتعيظمه لرسول الله (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم)..."

English:

“Similarly is what some people newly enact by analogy with the Christians who celebrate the birth of `Isa (AS) and out of love for the Prophet (SAW) as well as in honour of him. And Allah may reward them for this love and effort, not out the fact that it is a newly enacted action... to honor the Mawlid and to take it as a season, as some of the people are doing has a great reward in it because of their good intentions in honoring the Prophet…”[4]

A segment of the fatwa of Imam Jalal al-Din al-Suyuti is given here in translation taken from his al-Hawi li ’l-Fatawi:

Arabic:

الحمد لله و سلام على عباده الذين اصطفى. و بعد: ققد وقع السؤال عن عمل المولد النبوي في شهر ربيع الأول ما حكمه من حيث الشرع و هل هو محمود أو مذموم وهل يثاب فاعله أو لا؟

الجواب – عندي - أن أصل عمل المولد الذي هو اجتماع الناس و قراءة ما تيسر من القرآن ورواية الأخبار الواردة في مبدأ أمر النبي (صلى الله عليه و سلم) و ما وقع في مولده من الآيات ثم يمد لهم سماط يأكلونه وينصرفون من غير زيادة على ذلك هو من البدع الحسنة التي يثاب عليها صاحبها لما فيه من تعظيم قدر النبي (صلى الله عليه و سلم) وإظهار الفرح والاستبشار بمولده الشريف...

English:

“Praise belongs to Allah and blessings upon those of His servants He has [especially] chosen. I proceed: The question has been asked about the celebration of Mawlid of the Prophet in the month of Rabi` al-Awwal. What is the ruling concerning it according to the Shari `ah and is it something praiseworthy or blameworthy and does the one who celebrate it obtain reward for it or not?

I answer that the essence of the celebration of the Mawlid, which consists in people gathering together, recitation of that which is easy of the Qur’an, narrating accounts related to the beginnings of the Prophet (SAW) and the miraculous signs that have been told as taking place upon his birth as well as giving food to the people who eat and leave without adding anything extra to this, then this is one of the praiseworthy innovations and the one who does it obtains reward because of the respect shown to the greatness of the Prophet (SAW) and the open proclamation of joy and happiness at the news of his noble birth...”[5]


Imam al-Suyuti then reports the position of his teacher the supreme master of hadith in his time, al-Hafiz Ibn Hajar al-`Asqalani (RA):

Arabic:

و قد سئل شيخ الإسلام حافظ العصر أبو الفضل بن حجر [العسقلاني] عن عمل المولد فأجاب بما نصه: أصل عمل المولد بدعة لم تنقل عن أحد من السلف الصالح من القرون الثلاثة ولكنها مع ذلك قد اشتملت على محاسن وضدها. فمن تحرى في عملها المحاسن وتجنب ضدها كان بدعة حسنة و إلا فلا.

قال: و قد ظهر لي تخريجها على أصل ثابت وهو ما ثبت في الصحيحين من أن النبي (صلى الله عليه و سلم) قدم المدينة فوجد اليهود يصومون يوم عاشوراء فسألهم فقالوا: هو يوم أغرق الله فيه فرعون و نجى موسى فنحن نصومه شكرا لله تعالى فيستفاد منه فعل الشكر لله على ما من به في يوم معين من إسداء نعمة أو دفع نقمة و يعاد ذلك في نظير ذلك اليوم من كل سنة. و الشكر لله يحصل بأنواع العبادة كالسجود و الصيام و الصدقة و التلاوة وأي نعمة أعظم من النعمة ببروز هذا النبي نبي الرحمة في ذلك اليوم... فهذا ما يتعلق بأصل عمله، وأما ما يعمل فيه فينبغي أن يقتصر فيه على ما يفهم الشكر لله تعالى من نحو ما تقدم ذكره من التلاوة والإطعام والصدقة وإنشاد شيء من المدائح النبوية والزهدية المحركة للقلوب إلى فعل الخير والعمل للآخرة .

English:

“Shaykh al-Islam, the Hafiz of his age Abu ’l-Fadl Ibn Hajar [al-`Asqalani] was asked regarding commemorating the Mawlid and he replied in writing: The [legal] basis of commemorating the Mawlid is a newly enacted thing [the practice of which] has not been transmitted by the righteous predecessors of the first three generations. However, despite that, it involves good things and their opposites. Therefore, whoever looks for the good and avoids the opposites, then it is a good newly enacted matter.

He said:[6] It occurred to me to trace it to its established basis which has been confirmed in the two ‘authentic books’[7] that when the Prophet (SAW) arrived in Medina, he found that the Jews were fasting the day of `Ashura’ and he asked them about it and they replied: This is the day in which Allah drowned Fir`awn and saved Musa [AS], therefore we fast to show our gratitude to Allah (Most High!). From this it can be understood that thanks are being given to Allah (Most High!) on a specific day for his bestowal of bounty or [his] preventing indignity or harm and is repeated every year for the consideration of that day and thanks to Allah (Most high!) can be obtained through various acts of worship such as prostration, fasting, sadaqah or recitation of the Qur’an and what bounty is greater than the bounty of the advent of this Prophet, the Prophet of Mercy, on that day?

…This is regarding the basis of Mawlid. As for the activities done in it, it should be restricted to the things that express gratitude [and thankfulness] to Allah (Most High!), such as what has been previously mentioned such as reciting the Qur’an, eating food, giving charity, reciting poetry praising the Prophet or on piety that stirs the hearts and drives them to do good and deeds for the Hereafter.”[8]

And Allah alone knows best.

The MoD team.

[1] Some Maliki scholars go so far as to say that the birth date of the Prophet is superior to Laylat al-Qadr as mentioned by al-Wansharisi in al-Mi`yar al-Mu`rab wa ’l-Jami` al-Mughrib fi Fatawa Ahl Ifriqiyyah wa ’l-Andalus wa ’l-Maghrib, vol.11, pp.280-285. The same point was echoed by the Maliki hadith master al-Kattani in al-Yumn wa ’l-Is`ad bi Mawlid Khayr al-`Ibad, p.21.
[2] See for example, Ibn Rajab al-Hanbali, Lata’if al-Ma`arif, p.185; Nur al-Din `Itr, al-Nafahat al-`Itriyyah fi Sirat Khayr al-Bariyyah, pp.5-6; al-Dadisi Muhammad al-Ghali, Laft al-Anzar ila Qurrat al-Absar fi Sirat al-Mushaffa` al-Mukhtar, pp.38-39 and al-Salihi, Subul al-Huda wa ’l-Rashad fi Sirat Khayr al-`Ibad, vol.1, p.403.
[3] One may refer to the work of `Abd Allah al-Ghumari entitled Husn al-Tafahhum wa ’l-Dark li-Mas'alat al-Tark for more on that usuli notion.
[4] See Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah, Iqtida’ Sirat al-Mustaqim, pp.294-295.
[5] See Jalal al-Din al-Suyuti, al-Hawi li’’l-Fatawi, vol.1, pp.251-252.
[6] That is, al-Suyuti.
[7] i.e. al-Bukhari and Muslim.
[8] See al-Suyuti, al-Hawi li ’l-Fatawi, vol.1, pp.254-255.
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Q. If a child has no contact or limited contact with their biological father, will they get any sins for not talking to him?

A.

One must fulfil one’s duties to parents which may take varying forms and intensities. The particulars of the situation are not known in this case hence no specific answer is possible. However, one may not disown nor completely ignore one’s father. Islam does not allow for severing the child-parent ties. It is narrated by Ahmad in his Musnad that the Prophet (SAW) said:

عن سهل عن أبــــيه عن النبي (صلى الله عليه و سلم) قال: أن لله عبادا لا يكلمهم الله يمة القيامة و لا يزكيهم و لهم عذاب أليم . قيل: من يا رسول الله؟ قال: متبر من والديه و راغب عنهما...

English:

From Sahl from his father from the Prophet (SAW) who said: “Indeed, Allah will have slaves on the Day of Judgment and will neither speak to them nor purify them and they will have a sever punishment. [The companions] asked: Who are they, Messenger of Allah? He replied: those who disown their parents and abandon them…”[1]

It may be that through opening a seemingly closed door of a distant father and renewal of a somewhat old and awkward relationship that a new connection and lease of joy may be allowed to bloom. This may be the beginning of a way in which the child can gain Paradise (al-jannah) by pleasing his/her father and bringing happiness into his life, i.e. a blessing waiting in disguise!

The Prophet (SAW) in numerous places prefaced the entering of Paradise upon fulfilling the duties and kindness owed to parents – especially when they reach old age. In one narration the Prophet (SAW) said:

May he be cursed! May he be made low! May he be humiliated!

رغم أنف! ثم رغم أنف! ثم رغم أنف!
They asked: Who, O Messenger of Allah?
قيل: من يا رسول الله؟

He said: He whose parents, either one or both, attain old age and he does not enter Paradise.[2]
من أدرك أبويـــه عند الكبر أحدهما أو كليهما ثم لم يدخل الجنـــة .

Allah alone grants success.

The MoD team.

[1] See Ahmad, al-Musnad, hadith no.15083.
[2] Narrated by Muslim in his Sahih, hadith no.2551 from Abu Hurayrah (RA). See also Imam al-Nawawi’s commentary in Sharh Sahih Muslim, p.1832. The narration is also found in the Musnad of Ahmad, 2/340; the Sahih of Ibn Hibban, hadith no.908; al-Bayhaqi’s Shu`ab al-Iman, hadith no.7884; al-Hakim in the Mustadrak, vol.1, p.459; al-Tirmidhi in the Sunan, hadith no.3545 and al-Asbahani, Targhib wa ’l-Tarhib, hadith no.1817.
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Q. If you go back home, you see the family atmosphere and the respect for one another. Here, with our families that atmosphere doesn’t seem to be there. Why is that? (Is it due to the capitalist system) and is this why our relationship with our parents like this?

A.

No doubt, as Muslims, our relationship with our parents is defined by Allah (SWT) and His Messenger (SAW) and because it is a command from Him, it must be obeyed. Therefore, disobeying this command is a serious sin.

Obeying, respecting, loving, caring and living with our parents appear strange to the society around us. Unfortunately, this strangeness has crept into the mindset of many Muslims to the extent that even Muslims are annoyed, rude, disrespectful, fed up and dismissive of their parents. This is utterly against our Islamic culture and the beautiful and just rights given to parents by the Shari`ah.

Endemic to the capitalist way of life is a strong streak of individualism and personal pursuit of pleasure and gratification. Once the individual makes himself the standard of morals, ethics and rights, everything else becomes secondary. It is also unfortunate that a culture of mistreating the elderly, alienation of youth from love and warmth, social cohesion and community spirit are seeping into the cultures of Muslim countries where Islamic norms and rules were once entrenched and upheld. Muslims need to re-examine and ponder about what the best way of reviving not only the social culture but the culture in general before this residue of capitalism becomes widespread.

And with Allah alone is all success.

The Mod team.

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Q. There is a great emphasis on respecting your mother. What about your father? Do you have to treat them equally?

A.

Imam al-Bukhari in his Adab al-Mufrad on the section Being Dutiful to the Mother and Father (bab birr al-umm wa bab birr al-abb) mentions a few narrations:


1. Hadith:

حدثنا أبو عاصم عن بهر بن حكيم عن أبيه عن جده قلت: يا رسول الله! من أبر؟ قال: أمك. قلت: من أبر؟ قال: أمك. قلت: من أبر؟ قال: أمك. قلت: من أبر؟ قال: أباك ثم الأقرب فالأقرب.

English:

From Bahz b. Hakim from his father and grandfather who said: I asked: Messenger of Allah, to whom should I be dutiful? He replied: Your mother. I asked: Then whom? He replied: Your mother. I asked: Then whom? He replied: Your mother. I asked: Then whom? He replied: Your mother. I asked: Then to whom should I be dutiful? He replied: Your father and then the next closest relative and then the next [after them].[1]


2. Hadith:

حدثنا سليمان بن حرب قال: حدثنا وهيب بن خالد عن بن شبرمة قال: سمعت أبا زرعة عن أبى هريرة قال: قيل يا رسول الله من أبر؟ قال أمك. قال: ثم من؟ قال: أمك. قال: ثم من؟ قال أمك. قال: ثم من؟ قال أباك.

English:

From Abu Zur`ah on the authority of Abu Hurayra (RA) who said: The Prophet was asked: Messenger of Allah, to whom should I be dutiful? He replied: Your mother. [The Prophet] was then asked: Then whom? He replied: Your mother. He was asked: Then whom? He replied: Your mother. He was asked, Then whom? He replied: Your mother. He was yet again asked: Then whom? He replied: Your Father.[2]


3. Hadith:

حدثنا بشر بن محمد قال: أخبرنا عبد الله قال: أخبرنا يحيى بن أيوب قال: حدثنا أبو زرعة عن أبى هريرة أتى رجل نبي الله (صلى الله عليه و سلم) فقال: ما تأمرنى؟ قال: بر أمك ثم عاد فقال: بر أمك. ثم عاد فقال: بر أمك. ثم عاد الرابعه فقال: بر أمك ثم عاد الخامسة فقال: بر أباك.

English:

From Abu Zur`ah on the authority of Abu Hurayra (RA) who reported that: A man came to the Prophet of Allah (SAW) and asked: What do you command me to do? [The Prophet] replied: ‘Be dutiful towards your mother.' Then he asked [the Prophet] the same question again and he replied: Be dutiful towards your mother. He repeated it yet again and the Prophet replied: Be dutiful towards your mother. He repeated the question a fourth time and the reply was: Be dutiful towards your mother. Then he put the question a fifth time and the Prophet said: Be dutiful towards your father.[3]


4. Hadith:

عن عبد الله بن عمرو عن النبي (صلى الله عليه و سلم) قال: رضا الرب في رضا الوالد و سخط الرب في سخط الوالد .

English:

From `Abd Allah b. `Amr from the Prophet (SAW) who said: “The pleasure of Allah resides in the pleasure of the father and the anger of Allah resides in the anger of the father.”[4]


The respect, love, kindness and duty are the rights owed to both parents. The emphasis towards the mother is due to (amongst other reasons) her unparalleled burden in carrying the child before birth, the post birth duties of rearing it through its developmental stage and early childhood as well as the general nurturing and caring for of children at home.[5]


And Allah alone knows best.

The MoD team.

[1] See Bukhari, Adab al-Mufrad, hadith no.3, p.6. It was also narrated by `Abd al-Razzaq in his Musannaf, hadith no.20121; Ahmad in the Musnad, 5/2; Tirmidhi, hadith no.1897 and Abu Dawud, hadith no.5139 in their Sunan; al-Hakim in the Mustadrak, vol.4, p.150; al-Bayhaqi, Shu`ab al-Iman, hadith no.7839; al-Baghawi, Sharh al-Sunan, hadith no.3417 and al-Tabarani in his Mu`jam al-Kabir, hadith no.957 (vol.19) and Mu`jam al-Saghir, hadith no.617.
[2] See Bukhari, Adab al-Mufrad, hadith no.4, p.7 as well as in his Sahih, hadith no.5971; Ahmad in his Musnad, 2/327; Ibn Majah, Sunan, hadith no.2706; al-Bayhaqi, al-Sunan, vol.2, p.8 and his Shu`ab al-Iman, hadith no.7838; Ibn Abi Shaybah in the Musannaf, hadith no. 25403; the Sahih of Ibn Hibban, hadith no.433 and al-Baghawi, Sharh al-Sunnah, hadith no. 3416.
[3] See Bukhari, Adab al-Mufrad, hadith no.5, p.8. See also al-Asbahani, al-Taghrib wa ’l-Tarhib, hadith no.422.
[4] Narrated by al-Tirmidhi in his Sunan, hadith no.1899; Bukhari in the Adab al-Mufrad, hadith no.2, p.6; Ibn Hibban in his Sahih, hadith no.429; al-Bayhaqi, Shu`ab al-Iman, hadith no.7830; al-Baghawi, Sharh al-Sunnah, hadith no.3424; Ibn Wahb in al-Jami`, hadith no.92; al-Asbahani, al-Targhib wa ’l-Tarhib, hadith: 447; Ibn `Asakir in Tarikh Dimashq, vol.5, p.173 and Abu Nu`aym in Hilyat al-Awliya’, vol.8, p.215.
[5] See al-Nawawi, Sharh Sahih Muslim, hadith no.2548, p.1829.
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Q. The wife wants to move out but the husband doesn’t want to due to his love of his mother. This causes problems and distress to his relationship. However, he loves his mother very much and doesn’t wish to leave her.

A.

It is imperative that one maintains extreme love and devotion to parents even in the face of conflicts and difficulties of split attention and duties. The position of the mother is paramount in Islam and the Prophet (SAW) in innumerable places emphasised her station and position in the family. The Prophet (SAW) is reported to have said in two narrations (ahadith):

1. Hadith:

حدثنا أبو عاصم عن بهر بن حكيم عن أبيه عن جده قلت يا رسول الله من أبر قال أمك قلت من أبر قال أمك قلت من أبر قال أمك قلت من أبر قال أباك ثم الأقرب فالأقرب.


English:

Abu `Asim related us from Bahz b Hakim's father from his grandfather who said that: I asked: Messenger of Allah, to whom should I be dutiful? [the Prophet replied: Your mother. I asked: Then whom? He replied: Your mother. I asked: Then whom? He replied: Your mother. I asked: Then whom? He replied: Your mother. I asked: Then to whom should I be dutiful? He replied: Your father and then the next closest relative and then the next.[1]

2. Hadith:

حدثنا سعيد بن أبى مريم قال أخبرنا محمد بن جعفر بن أبى كثير قال أخبرني زيد بن اسلم عن عطاء بن يسار عن بن عباس أنه أتاه رجل فقال أنى خطبت امرأة فأبت أن تنكحني وخطبها غيرى فأحبت أن تنكحه فغرت عليها فقتلتها فهل لي من توبة قال أمك حية قال لا قال تب إلى الله عز و جل وتقرب إليه ما استطعت.

فذهبت فسألت بن عباس لم سألته عن حياة أمه فقال أنى لا أعلم عملا أقرب إلى الله عز و جل من بر الوالدة.

English:

Sa`id b. Abi Maryam related to us and said: Muhamamd b. Ja`far b. Abi Kathir informed us saying: Zayd b. Aslam reported to me from `Ata' b. Yasar from Ibn `Abbas that he said a man came to him and said: I asked a woman to marry me and she refused to marry me. Another man asked her and she agreed to marry him. I became jealous and killed her. Is there any way for me to repent? He asked: Is your mother alive? [The man] replied: No. He said: repent to Allah (Most High!) and try to draw near to Him as much as you can.

`Ata’ went and asked Ibn `Abbas [RA]: Why did you ask him whether his mother was alive? He replied: I do not know of any action better for bringing a person near to Allah than dutifulness to his mother.[2]

Often in the subculture of the Indian sub-continent, it is considered unacceptable for the husband and wife to move to a separate place if there are extreme difficulties and inconveniences such as no intimacy between spouses; lack of privacy for the wife or lack of room for the children.

With regard to the situation in the question, no specific answer is possible simply because the details are absent. The Shari`ah ruling will change and be influenced by particulars; e.g.

- Is the mother extremely old and infirm?
- Are there any other unmarried male siblings in a position to look after the mother?
- Is the place large enough for the wife to be provided with a separate room?
- Are the grounds for the wife to demand a separate dwelling based merely on dislike of the mother? Etc. etc.

In addition to perhaps a whole host of other particulars that will have to be taken into account before reliable and accurate rulings can be given.

The Shari`ah has given rights to both the husband and the wife and sometimes these rights may not go down well with entrenched local/regional customs but it is our duty to attempt to educate and make our parent(s) understand in the best possible and politest manner the Shari`ah positions and entitlements spouses have without trampling on the nighty rights the Shari`ah has given them.

According to the school of Imam Abu Hanifah (RA), a woman retains the right to demand a separate dwelling (suknah) and this is a duty of the husband to provide and fulfil. If it is not possible to provide a separate dwelling, then a room must be provided for the wife so that privacy is established for her; her possessions are safe and so that she can relax and enjoy in comfort.[3]

And Allah knows best.

The MoD team.

[1] See al-Bukhari, Adab al-Mufrad, hadith no.3, p.6.
[2] Narrated by Bukhari in his Adab al-Mufrad, hadith no.4, p.17 and by al-Bayhaqi in Shu`ab al-Iman, hadith no.7913.
[3] See for example, al-Haskafi’s statements in Durr al-Mukhtar as explained by Ibn `Abidin in his Radd al-Muhtar, vol.3, pp.559-560 and al-Kasani’s al-Bada’i` al-Sana’i`, vol.4, p.23.

Tuesday, 19 February 2008

Following the Prophet's (saw) example - like you have never seen before!

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Slms! Here is a short skit on giving dawah with the vision of Muhammed (saw) - but in a way never heard before! The Prophet (saw) wanted the "superstars" of his time to accept Islam... Imagine the Terminator, Rocky, James Bond and George Bush - after taking shahadah! ;)

Sunday, 10 February 2008

Photos from "Love, Sex.. & Marriage?!" Event






Mashallah! All praise if for Allah - this event was LIVE! We had ~200 youth attending from all over London! As you can see it was a full house, brothers and sisters! (but sisters pictures not taken!) Everyone commented that they have never heard of such an event and never seen such an "on the level talk"!

ps we aim inshallah to have your questions answered and uploaded on the blog asap! Video's coming soon inshallah! Please leave your comments!!!